According to the American Psychological Association, around 50% of all marriages are likely to end in a divorce. While this has been declining steadily over the years, many couples still go through this long, painful process. Divorce is rarely smooth sailing or stress-free but there are ways in which you can make this process easier. We recommend asking the questions mentioned below before deciding on your actions. Sometimes asking these questions and communicating with your partner can heal a relationship or make a divorce more amicable.
- Have you communicated?
A communication breakdown is one of the most common reasons for divorces. Unfortunately, it’s not easy to overcome this barrier. Hurt feelings, pride, resentment, and other such emotions make it difficult for partners to reconnect. It is important to set all feelings aside and focus on communication. Have you clearly conveyed your needs and requirement to your partner? Research suggests people only listen to around 30% to 35% of what they hear as they’re too focused on contemplating their response. It’s a good idea to carry out this discussion once again to ensure there is no misunderstanding.
- Are you financially ready?
Married couples eventually merge their finances so they can easily manage their household. They are used to working on a double income, sharing expenses, bills, and other financial responsibilities. In fact, some individuals don’t work on finances together, letting their spouses handle everything on their behalf. This financial interdependency can have a big impact on your life after divorce. That’s why it’s important to ensure your finances are in good order before deciding on a divorce.
- Can the divorce be handled with minimum damage to children?
Children are the biggest concern during any divorce. Caring parents will always consider how divorce can impact a child. Staying in a marriage isn’t always the healthiest solution for a child either, though many people believe it might be. Children growing up in hostile environment suffer more than children of divorce. All you need to do is consider how you can reduce disruption as much as possible. Discuss how separation can be carried out without causing too much emotional distress.
- Are you ready?
No couple decides to leave their marriage without considering the matter thoroughly, but it never hurts to take another look. Carefully consider which factors compel you to end the marriage and determine if they can be resolved through conversation. Think of what you want from it instead of focusing on what your spouse did or didn’t do. Are your wants reasonable and achievable through conversation? For example, the want for personal safety and freedom from abuse is a compelling reason for divorce. This can’t be achieved through conversation or compromise. However, if you feel you’re no longer compatible, there are steps to help reevaluate a relationship or find new ways to reconnect.
A good divorce lawyer can make this process even better by offering solid legal advice and negating conflicts. After you have asked all of these questions, discuss your options with a qualified lawyer for good results.